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| |  Posted 6/1/2007 3:52:02 PM | |
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| | Please pray for me and my family. I have been dealing with an alcoholic brother for 10 years. My husband pastors a church and works a part-time job. I work a full-time job. I direct VBS every year and our's is July 9-13th. We have decided that we need to take some time off and will from the church for 2 weeks, just because my family really needs to be refreshed by God. My mom just called me at work and she let my brother move in with her and my sister (who has Down's Syndrome). This is not the first time he has lived with her and for 7 years (when he lived with her before) we would get out at 2 A.M. and get her when he started drinking. She always had to leave her house and we did it. He is drinking again and she wants to come stay at our house. He won't work and is 47, I am 43. I am physically and emotionally at the end of my rope with this. I feel so burdened and my mom makes me feel so guilty if I don't just drop everything and come get her. I feel like he doesn't need to live there. I have 2 children, 1 is 15 and 1 is 12. My 12 year old suffers from all of this and is so nervous. He throws up in the morning. I know God can answer prayers, but I need direction. As, I write this at work, I can't help but have tears streaming down my face. My focus is off God and I need to lead VBS. Please pray for us in Kentucky. Rodeo Pam |
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| | | Posted 6/1/2007 7:06:20 PM | |
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| Pam...Lifting ALL of you up to the Lord...know what a demon alcoholism is...Kimberly
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| | | Posted 6/1/2007 8:31:37 PM | |
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| Dear Pam,
My heart and prayers go out to you. We know that you are doing all you can for your love one. But they have to want to stop, nothing you can do will make them do it. I will pray that your brother will see that his life does have meaning and that he will want to change.
I will kept your vbs in my prayers. May God bless your church and may it be a blessing to the children in your community.
Go away some where after vbs and relax and recharge with your husband and children. Everyone needs that. Do not feel guilty. Tell your Mom and brother that you love them but your family needs this time to be together.
Get help from others who are going through this. See if there is a meeting in your area.
Let us know how you are doing.
God Bless
Riverside Kathy |
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| | | Posted 6/1/2007 9:16:41 PM | |
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| It may help if you can convince your mother to go to to an alcoholics family support group. She needs to learn to deal with his alcoholism and how not to enable him. I have a friend who suffered through a similar situation for many years. Her son is currently in jail for being drunk on his probation. She has finally learned how to say no more to him.
I pray that this situation be resolved safely and timely for all involved. |
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| | | Posted 6/1/2007 10:22:21 PM | |
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| | Pam, You are being lifted up to the throne of our Father in heaven. Take comfort in knowing that we are praying for you and that God is in control. I pray that he see you all through this and give you the patience, grace and wisdom to make the right decision(s).
Partnering with parents to "TRAIN" up our children in the way they should go! |
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| | | Posted 6/2/2007 8:32:44 AM | |
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| I am agreeing in prayer for you and your family. "Where two or more are gathered..." God bless you through this very trying time. The Ala-Non groups are wonderful. I have attended several myself and keep the book with daily readings in my night stand to go to when needed. Of course, the Bible is a help as well. When you are with him, be praying for the demon to leave him and the home under the authority of Christ. Touch him as you pray, if possible.
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| | | Posted 6/3/2007 10:27:30 PM | |
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| Pam, I too lift you up to our Heavenly Father as He alone can provide you with the tools needed to handle all of this commotion in your life. Take His strenght, take His grace, take His love. He so generously gives it to you. He wants you to have all you need to get through this season of chaos. I rebuke the enemy who would have you think you cannot handle this situation.
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| | | Posted 6/3/2007 11:18:36 PM | |
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| | I work for a Community Addiction Recovery Enterprise facility in Minnesota. We have in-patient programs for people struggling with chemical dependencies. There are state funds that counties can draw from to pay for the cost of these programs if the person qualifies. Many of our people are committed because their drinking has caused them legal problems. Many are voluntary realizing that they don't want this controlling their lives anymore. You may want to make a phone call to either a county social worker or a nearby chemical dependency program to gain input. I know it is very difficult, but maybe your mother needs to get the authorities involved when life is too dangerous to stay in her own home. It may help build a case for commitment which will keep your mom and brother safe. I would actually try to get him out of the house before the next incident. If your mom is scared in her own home, it is time to get help in solving the problem. Your brother needs to face this problem and know that he can overcome it. Someday he will hopefully realize that your actions today were not only to keep your mother safe but to bring him to the realization that you do love him and that he does have a positive purpose in life. I will pray for all of you.
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