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The rewards are a short-term way to show what behavior is worth rewarding, so I would recommend only using physical rewards for really great things and mostly using verbal rewards and compliments. Like I said, I use fruit snacks on occasion, which are not as bad as candy, but still are very fun! I know there is a lot of discussion in the teaching realm (Christian and not) about whether rewards should be given, and I say all things in moderation. Life has rewards and consequences, but most of the time they are internal. So, I agree that we should not get the kids to expect a reward for everything, but kids love to be caught being good! Making them all feel special for who they are is what's important. I'm sorry that you have a disruptive student too. It must be pretty frustrating. God can use the disruptive kids too. I wonder how disruptive John the Baptist was to all those Israelites. 
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| Misty, You're the greatest! I love you're honesty and heart for His kids. How has the situation progressed? I love the idea of asking another adult to address it to keep you clear of family drama. But is that an option for you? Do you have volunteers in place that can help in that manner? If not, here are a couple of other practical ideas. 1. A monthly parent meeting. This is a great way to keep them informed of upcoming events and ministries happening as well as addressing general behavior issues and expectations. Also a great way to hear their voice on issues, pray together and offer online resources on pop culture. 2. Establish a set of behavioral guidlines for your ministry, for kids and adult workers. With that you will also have to define according punishments for bad behavior which someone mentioned. 3. Talk to the senior pastor about the issue (he/she is not family....are they???) and glean from their wisdom on the situation. 4. When you have it figured out write a book on it so the rest of us can buy it and learn what to do! Matt, Forum Moderator
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Matty21 (4/24/2009)
3. Talk to the senior pastor about the issue (he/she is not family....are they???) and glean from their wisdom on the situation.
100% agree. Your head pastor is your supervisor and is responsible for the church overall. When you have a problem that has the potential to create problems in the church overall, you definitely need to communicate the issue with your head pastor.
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| I have given candy out in the past when we were working on a human video to keep them focused and it worked great! I have contemplated going to the pastor but I didn't want to seem incapable of handling it. I still think I may address it with him and get his opinion. I appreciate all the great suggestions and he wasn't at church last Sunday but I fear my problems may arise this Sunday when he returns. I will keep you posted!!!
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Here is how we handle this sort of stuff.
1. Clear expectations
2. Adult to student ratio of about 1 to 8. Adults sit in with the students and not out on the fringe. Adults that sit on the fringe are chaperones, adults that sit with the students are ministers.
3. The adult sitting near the offending student asks them to be quiet.
4. If that doesn't fix the problem the student is asked to sit outside the room in the lobby until afterwards.
5. Talk with him
6. If it is a continual problem the parents are notified and asked to help the situation.
I wouldn't do a chart. Youth are old enough to be responsible for their actions. The longer you let them disrupt and the more warnings you give the longer it will take to remedy the situation. I used to have a boy in the group that disrupted all the time and I spent almost more time correcting him from the front of the group (never do this) that is wasted the other student's time. Finally I sent him out. Talked with him afterwards. Problem fixed. He didn't really think I would send him out.
Unless it was something major I wouldn't go to our lead pastor with this type of problem. This should be something a youth pastor can handle on their own with the help of their youth ministry team.
Andy
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www.theaddyouthpastor.com
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